The bestselling, seminal work of trans literature: a story of love, sex, selfhood, and understanding from Jennifer Finney Boylan
When she changed genders, she changed the world. It was the groundbreaking publication of
She’s Not There in 2003 that jump-started the transgender revolution.
By turns hilarious and deeply moving, Boylan – a cast member on
I Am Cait; an advisor to the television series
Transparent, and a contributing opinion writer for the
New York Times -- explores the territory that lies between men and women, examines changing friendships, and rejoices in the redeeming power of love and family.
She’s Not There was one of the first works to present trans experience from the perspective of a literary novelist, opening a door to new understanding of love, sex, gender, and identity. Boylan inspired readers to ask the same questions she asked herself: What is it that makes us---ourselves? What does it mean to be a man, or a woman? How much could my husband, or wife, change—and still be recognizable as the one I love?
Boylan’s humorous, wise voice helped make
She’s Not There the first bestselling work by a transgender American--and transformed Boylan into a national spokeswoman for LGBTQ people, their families, and the people that love them. This updated and revised edition also includes a new epilogue from Jenny’s wife Grace; it also contains the original afterward by her friend, novelist and Pulitzer Prize winner Richard Russo.
“Love will prevail,” said Boylan’s conservative mother, as she learned about her daughter’s identity.
She’s Not There is the story that helped bring about a world in which that change seems almost possible.
JENNIFER FINNEY BOYLAN, author of fourteen books, is the inaugural Anna Quindlen Writer in Residence at Barnard College of Columbia University in the City of New York and is Special Advisor to the president of Colby College in Maine. She has been a contributor to the Op-Ed page of the
New York Times since 2007; in 2013 she became Contributing Opinion Writer for the page. Jenny also serves on the Board of Trustees of the Kinsey Institute for Research on Sex, Gender, and Reproduction. She is the national co-chair of the Board of Directors of GLAAD, the media advocacy group for LGBT people worldwide, and serves as a consultant to several television series. A novelist, memoirist, and short-story writer, she is also a nationally known advocate for civil rights. Jenny has appeared on the
Oprah Winfrey Show on four occasions;
Live with Larry King twice; the
Today show; the
Barbara Walters Special; and NPR''s
Talk of the Nation. She has also been the subject of documentaries on CBS News''
48 Hours and The History Channel. She lives in New York City and in Belgrade Lakes, Maine, with her wife, Deedie, and her two sons, Zach and Sean.
Mr. Fun Hog
There they were, two young women standing by the side of the road with their thumbs out. They weren''t warmly dressed, considering that it was December, in Maine. One of them had green hair. They looked to me as if they were in trouble, or about to be. I pulled over, thinking, better me than someone else. The world was full of characters.
"Can you take us to Augusta, ma''am? The Middle Road?" said the one whose hair was not green.
"Yes, of course, I''m going right past there," I said. "Climb in."
Soon they were in the car and we were driving west. The smell of pot wafted from the women, and I thought about the fact that my purse was on the floor in the back next to Green Hair.
"Wow, lady," said the girl next to me, looking at all the equipment in the minivan. "You sure have a lot of stuff. What is that, a guitar?"
"Synthesizer," I said. "I was playing at a Christmas party at the Samoset Resort last night. I was sitting in with the Roy Hudson Band."
"Whoa, I know them," said Green Hair, suddenly impressed. "You play with them? They''re great. The Roy Hudsons used to play at Colby when I went there."
I glanced in the rearview mirror to get a better look at her. Something in her voice was familiar. "You used to go to Colby College?" I said. I was about to say, I''m chair of the English department there, but hesitated.
"Yeah," she said. "A couple semesters, a long time ago. Couldn''t hack it."
It was possible, although not certain, that Green Hair was named Ashley LaPierre, who''d been a student of mine back when I was a man. Looking at her now, all I could think was, wow, she''s really changed.
The class Ashley had been in was Love, Literature, and Imagination, the introduction to fiction, poetry and drama for non-majors. I loved teaching that course, and sometimes did it as a great big lecture class where I stood at the front of the room and sang. We read a wide range of stuff, most of it having to do with people trying to find the courage to do something impossible. We talked a lot about the journey of the mythic hero, about the slaying of dragons and the attainment of illumination.
I used to stand there at the lectern in my coat and tie, waving my glasses around, urging students to find the courage to become themselves. Then I''d go back to the office and lock the door and put my head down on the desk.
Ashley LaPierre had dropped out of Colby in the middle of that semester, which broke my heart. I remembered she''d been a fine writer though, shining in both my class as well as in Richard Russo''s fiction workshop.
Now, six or seven years later, Ashley--assuming it was she-- didn''t seem to recognize me, which wasn''t a surprise, seeing as how I didn''t use to be female. I was wearing blue jeans and a coral knit sweater. My long blonde hair fell just above my breasts.
"So what are you girls up to?" I asked.
"We was walking into Augusta," said the one next to me. "Pickin up this pit bull."
"I''m Jennifer, by the way," I said.
"Stacey Brown." The other girl didn''t introduce herself. Stacey punched in my lighter.
I wanted to say something about how we didn''t allow smoking in our family, but decided not to. The car was full of amplifiers and sound modules and monitors anyway, and I''d just spent a night playing songs like Hey Bartender and Mustang Sally for a bunch of tattooed millworkers. It didn''t seem like the time to start lecturing these girls on the dangers of nicotine.
"You live around here?" I said. Ashley was looking out the window.
"We live on a farm," said Stacey. "We got five cats, three hens, one rooster."
"Nothin''," said Stacey.
The lighter clicked out and she lit up a cigarette from a pack of generic smokes.
"So you live out there by yourself?"
"Yeah," said Stacey. "Since our boyfriends went to jail."
I looked at Ashley in the rear-view mirror. She smiled for a moment, as if at some happy memory. The smile accentuated her apple cheeks, her bright, shining eyes.
"Who owns the pit bull?" I asked.
"We don''t know, some guy who calls himself Speed Racer. He''s got a brown trailer. We saw the dog advertised in Uncle Henry''s. We been thinking about getting a pit bull for a long time."
The smile faded off of Ashley''s face.
One day Ashley La Pierre had come into the office I shared with Russo to talk about a paper she was trying to write on "The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock." She was wearing gigantic black boots with clunky heels. Ashley''s eyes fell upon a poster of the Marx Brothers on the wall above the file cabinet. "Who are those guys?" she asked.
"The Marx Brothers," I said. "Groucho, Chico, Harpo. You''ve never heard of them?"
She shrugged. "Nah. Anyway. This poem? Prufrock''s Love Song?" She spoke with that feminine-inflected voice that makes every statement sound like a question. Occasionally I brought the symbolism of this inflection to my students'' attention, especially when I asked for their names and they answered me as if they weren''t sure what they were. Megan? Heather? Ashley? "Say your names as if you are proud of them," I''d urge my students. "Your identity is not a question."
Now that I was female, that same inflection often snuck into my own voice, a fact which both amazed and infuriated me. Hello? I''m Jenny Boylan?
"Yes," I''d said to Ashley. "We talked about it in class." I''d been sitting at my desk chair, next to my computer. I''d been wearing Dockers and a tweed jacket, a blue Oxford shirt and a brown tie. It seemed like a long time ago. I had a mop of brownish-blonde hair and small round wire-rim glasses, a fountain pen, stubble.
"See, that''s the thing," Ashley said. "The way that opens, let''s get out of here, the both of us, while--whatever--"
"Let us go then, you and I! While the evening is spread out against the sky, like a patient etherized upon a--"
"Yeah, yeah," Ashley said. "See, in class we were talking about how like, that''s him talking to this girl, right? Only I don''t see it that way at all."
"No?" I said. "Well how do you read it?"
"I think he''s standing in front of a mirror," she said. "And it''s like he''s this person cut in half, you know, it''s like he''s got this half of him that everybody thinks is cool, like he''s Mister Fun Hog, but in fact he''s totally scared of everything. It''s like he''s got this person he''s invented and then there''s this other person who''s really him and he''s trying to talk to this other person, trying to like, convince him to get the hell out of there."
I nodded. "So you feel that J. Alfred Prufrock is torn in half?"
She looked at me as if I hadn''t read the poem. "The fuck yes," she said. "Don''t you?"
I nodded again. "I do." I was having a hard time concentrating. "So is he crazy?"
"Crazy?" Ashley said. "Hell no. Everybody feels like that. Don''t they?"
We drove toward Augusta in silence. Every now and then I''d ask a question, or make some clever observation, but mostly I just let things stay quiet. Back when I was a boy, I''d hitchhiked lots of times, and there was nothing worse, sometimes, than a driver who was determined to make you talk.
We got to Middle Road in Augusta, and I drove down the street first one way, then another--but there was no brown trailer. "Are you sure it was Middle Road?"
"Middle Street," said Ashley.
"Do you have directions?" I asked.
"Yeah," said Stacey. "It''s like you go down this road and then there''s some sort of intersection or something?"
We let this sink in.
"Why don''t we call?" I said, and pulled in to a Mobil station. Stacey looked at me, embarrassed. "Here," I said, pulling a quarter out of the cup holder. "My treat."
As Stacey went off to the pay phone, I sat in the car with Ashley. I suddenly had this unbearable urge to turn around and say, Ashley, it''s me, Professor Boylan. Remember? I''m like, a woman now? I had this sense that, for the first time, there wasn''t some kind of invisible wall between us, that for the first time I could actually be known by her. But that wasn''t true. There were all sorts of walls between us, even now.
I turned on the radio. A chorus of voices singing in a cathedral. Thomas Tallis'' 40-Part Motet.
Stacey came back to the car. "Okay, I got it," she said.
I headed out into traffic. "What do we do?" I said.
"You go like, along some way, and then there''s some kind of like, turn or something, and then there''s some other road?"
I had a hunch where Middle Street was, and we drove through Augusta, Maine''s hard-bitten capital, towards Belgrade.
Two little girls were playing in the front yard of a row house.
"Go on, play little girls," said Ashley. "Enjoy it while you can."
"Yeah," said Stacey. "They don''t even know the shit they''re in."
"You got kids, Jenny?" Ashley said.
"Yes, two boys. They''re seven and five."
"You have ''em by Caesarian?" she asked. This wasn''t the question I was expecting.
"Don''t ask her that," said Stacey. "Jesus, like it''s any of your business."
"I just think it''s interesting," said Ashley. "All my friends are Caesarians, all of them. Don''t you think that means something? It''s like, all Caesarians have this thing about them?"
"I wasn''t Caesarian," said Stacey.
"Actually, the thing, Caesarians have? You don''t have it."
"My boys were C-sections, actually," I said, although I didn''t want to mention that I wasn''t the one who''d actually gone through labor. "And I was one too."
"I knew it!" said Ashley. "I''m psychic!"
"Psycho, you mean," said Stacey.
"Lucky you, having boys," said Ashley. "You don''t have to worry about all the shit."
"Yeah, well, boys have other things they have to worry about," I said.
"As if," said Ashley.
I drove down Middle Street, and hoped, in a way, that I wouldn''t be able to find the trailer. It was already clear that a pit bull was the very last thing these girls needed in their lives, that it was the only thing I could think of that might make their lives any worse than they were already.
I had to get up to Colby by early afternoon, to meet the Russos for dinner, then introduce Richard at the reading he was giving at the college that night. His new book, Empire Falls, had come out the previous summer, and the Colby reading was ostensibly the last stop on the year''s long reading tour.
I was looking forward to introducing Russo that evening. It would be my first official re-introduction to the college community since I''d switched from Regular to Diet Coke. I knew the reading would be packed, too, the room likely to be filled with a couple hundred people. It would definitely be an occasion. To make it stranger, everyone knew that Rick had been my best friend back when I was a man. As a writer--and as a man--Russo was something of a tough guy. Having his best friend turn into a woman hadn''t struck him as a great idea at the time.
I pulled up in front of a brown trailer. A pit bull was chained to a tree.
"This looks like the place," I said.
"Okay," said Stacey, getting out of the van. Ashley was still staring out the window. Stacey took a couple steps toward the trailer, then looked back at us. "Lee?" she said, irritated.
"Coming," said Lee, and opened her door. I thought, is that what she calls herself now, Lee? I still wasn''t sure it was even the girl I had known.
Before she put her feet on the ground, Lee said, "Listen, Jennifer?"
"Do you mind coming along with us?" She looked up at the trailer. "In case this guy is sketchy?"
I nodded. "Sure," I said.
As it turned out, the trailer was way sketchy. Four busted-up cars sat on cinder blocks. An old red truck was pulled up next to the back door. On the back windows were two decals. The first one said, SHOW US YOUR TITS!
The second one, in Gothic script, read, YOUR COLLEGE SUCKS.
Stacey knocked on the door and waited. No one answered. She knocked again.
The pit bull came over, snarling and bouncing and wagging.
"Aww," Lee said. "Pretty girl."
I had no idea who she was referring to. It didn''t appear to apply to anyone present. Then she kneeled and started petting the pit bull, which in turn licked her face. "Pretty girl," she said again.
Stacey kept knocking on the back door of the trailer. I looked around the yard, which was all mud. There was garbage and rusted pieces of metal and broken auto parts in every direction.
"I guess he ain''t home," said Stacey.
She came over to where we were standing, and looked at the dog. "Wow," she said. "She''s great."
Lee looked up. "What do you think?" she said. "You think we should just take her?"
We all thought about it. The guy was giving the dog away, after all. Still, it seemed odd that he wouldn''t be here, especially after Stacey had just called him on the phone. Was it possible we were at the wrong house? If we just took the dog, it was entirely possible we''d wind up getting arrested for dog larceny. These girls seemed to be exactly the kind of characters to whom such things happened.
"Wait," said Stacey. "Something''s moving in the house."
We went back to the door and knocked again. Stacey turned to us with a look of urgency. "He''s only wearing a towel," she said.
Lee looked at me urgently. Please, save us, she seemed to say.
But I didn''t think I could save anybody anymore.
Speed Racer, clad only in a towel, unlocked the back door. "Sorry," he said. "Didn''t hear ya. Come on in. Let''s get some clothes on."
Well, yes, that sounds good, I thought. He vanished. Then Stacey and Lee and I looked at each other and considered our next move.
"I guess we just--go in?" said Lee.
"Uh-huh," I said.
They let me go first.
A moment later we were all standing in a filthy kitchen. Dishes were piled high in the sink. There was a calendar of a topless woman on one wall, and my first reaction was, what''s the deal with men and nudie calendars? Is it just so they can show everyone how stupid they are? Then I caught hold of myself. I sort of remembered what the deal was.